The Ex Girlfriend Playbook – Tricks to Winning Back Your Ex

For guys who’ve lost a girlfriend due to a break up and want to win her back, the following tips and tricks will help. Are you going too fast? Not doing enough of the right things? Is there a contact ex-girlfriend etiquette when trying to get back together, and if so, what is it? These questions, and more, are answered below.

Getting dumped by your girlfriend puts you in a very weird and awkward position. You want her back, but you’re not supposed to talk to her. Here’s someone you’ve been speaking to and seeing just about every day, and now you can’t go within arm’s length of her without being labeled a stalker. Weird, eh? Of course it is. So how can you get back your ex girlfriend if you’ve got all these rules and regulations to follow?

Winning back your ex is all about patience, timing, and knowing what NOT to do. Most guys fail miserably in the first few days following a break up, making all the same rookie mistakes that send their ex screaming in the other direction. Sending flowers… telling her you love her… and hey, isn’t it time to write out that heartfelt card to say all those things you never told her before? Yeah, right. All those things will destroy your chances faster than you can make that first desperate phone call. Contacting your ex girlfriend after she dumps you is actually one of the worst things you can possibly do if you want to win her back.

Are you ready to start? Good. Because the first thing you’ll need to do is accept the fact that you’re single again. Staying in denial about your breakup reeks of desperation, and your ex will smell it all over you. You need to let go of her first in order to get her back, and to do that you have to acknowledge that your relationship is completely over. You’ll miss her, want her, and need to talk to her… but the best thing you can do is turn off your computer, throw your phone over your shoulder, and head on over to a friend’s house for a night of mindless entertainment. Clearing your head and breaking all contact with your ex should be your number one and two priorities right now.

Worried that she’s waiting for your call? Feel like if you don’t talk to her she’ll slip away from you? Stop yourself and shake these thoughts from your head. Understand that there’s no quick fix for any relationship in which the girl dumped you. Fixing things between you and your ex will take time, and during that time you’ll need to avoid making bonehead moves. Keep telling yourself that you’ll eventually get your ex back, and believe that you will. Everything you’re going to do from here on out should be in line with a single goal: making your ex want you again.

Think about it: you’re in love with her, calling her, and emailing your ex. You’re there for her whenever she wants, always in plain sight. Think your ex misses you? Hell no. Which is why dropping out of sight is such a great way to get back in her head. You need to reverse the way you think, and more importantly, feel right now. The less she sees of you the better. When she thinks you’re still around she has no incentive to reverse the break up. Your ex will continue exploring single life for as long as she’s comfortable… and seeing you clinging onto her ankle makes her very comfortable.

Temporarily cutting the lines of communication makes your ex wonder if you’ve moved on, and this is a good thing. No contact ex girlfriend etiquette also dictates you’ll need to ignore her own calls or messages. This might be monumentally hard to do! But look at it this way, if she’s calling you, she’s already very curious. Ignoring her calls will quickly make her worried. And no, not “worried about you” in some stupid sappy caring way (like she’ll lead you to believe), but worried as in “Holy crap maybe he’s found someone else already! I can’t believe it!”. Confusing and scaring your ex out of her comfort zone will cause her to reconsider the fact that she ended things. For the first time since she let you go, she’s got to consider losing you for good – as both a friend and a lover.

Winning back your ex is always about making her need you more than you need her. To put her in this mindset, you cannot give away your hand. No matter how much you love her and want to talk to her again, by letting things go silent for a while you’re doing yourself a tremendous justice. You’re also increasing the chances that you’ll get back together with your exgirlfriend by ten times more than you would if you kept contact with her.

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Getting Married Abroad

With the growing popularity of weddings abroad, more couples than ever before are considering the option of jetting away and celebrating their wedding in a unique and fabulous location.

I know from personal experience the decision to get married abroad is not one you make lightly and there definitely are both advantages and disadvantages in having your wedding abroad.

So how do you know if getting married abroad is right for you?

Firstly, the most important factor to remember is that the decision to get married abroad is very personal and its not something anyone else can do for you you will need to weigh up all the pros and cons and give each a measure of importance to you as a couple.

For Sharon and Simon, the decision to have a destination wedding began after they started planning a traditional wedding in their hometown. As their plans progressed, Sharon commented that “it just didnt feel right to us, neither of us felt overjoyed about this type of wedding”. During a planning session, her partner Simon casually mentioned that he would love to get married in a tropical rainforest and immediately they both knew this was how they wanted to celebrate their wedding day.

So after many long discussions, Sharon and Simon made the decision to cancel their big affair in their hometown but were very apprehensive about informing their family and friends of their change in plans. Sharon said, “we had needlessly put ourselves through a lot of anguish, pondering whether cancelling was the right decision, and about the reactions we would receive. Everyone surprised us saying it was a fantastic idea, and gave us their full support, so we worried needlessly about pleasing everyone all along”.

From her experiences, Sharon advice to all couples is that “if the idea of breaking with conformity, and disappointing family and friends is hindering your decision to have a wedding abroad, my advice is go for it. I guarantee you will be pleasantly surprised at the reaction you receive from those you inform. Once you take the plunge, your wedding takes on a whole new magical feel and then your choices are limitless”. So what do other couples say thatve had their wedding abroad?

The following list of advantages and disadvantages comes from the real life experiences of couples who have had a destination wedding.

The Advantages of Getting Married Abroad.

Our choice of destinations and locations was endless.

We had our wedding in a unique and spectacular setting. The photos were amazing!

The cost of getting married abroad was significantly cheaper than if wed of had our wedding at home.

The planning was easy and stress free because we hired the services of a wedding planner.

We didnt get caught in the conveyer-belt of the traditional weddings, where couples often find themselves having the same format and style as every other wedding simply because there is no scope to do anything else.

Seven Surefire Signs That Your Ex Still Wants You

Breaking up is probably the hardest thing to experience in a relationship. You’ve both invested your feelings and emotions in the relationship then one day you just find yourselves out of it for some reason. No matter who initiated the breakup, it would still hurt a lot. But in some situations where you think that you both still could work out things and bring back love, there are signs that you can observe on your ex partner that will definitely tell you that he is still into you.

1. Your ex never loses contact with you. Your ex still tries to call you and sends you messages on your phone. This is a surefire sign that he wants you back because he is afraid to lose contact with you.

2. Your ex doesn’t entertain or even try to flirt with other girls. This is a sign that he is not interested with other girls and he wants no one else but you.

3. Your ex still makes an effort to at least see you or catch even a glimpse of you. This is a sign that he’s still so much into you.

4. Your ex shows up in places that you frequent as a couple. This means he misses your moments together when you were still together as a couple.

5. Your ex secretly talks to your bestfriend about you and asks her how you are.

6. Your ex posts “missing you” quotes on his Facebook and Twitter.

7. Your ex invites you to have a coffee and hang out in the mall. This means he still wants to be with you.

Getting back together may not be easy at first. But as long as your ex shows these signs that he is still into you and you still love him, then being back together isn’t going to be that hard at all. As they say, love is sweeter the second time around. Give it a try. Who knows, this time it’ll really be for keeps.

Secrets Behind Making Your Man Fall in Love with You

If you are interested in a guy you are always thinking about how to make him love you. Your head is always planning strategies to make him fall in love with you. You might know for sure that you are in love but there might be no clue as to whether he has the same feeling for you. In this article you can know about the secrets behind what will make him fall for you, and you will feel more confident.

(1) Your Appearance

Always be presentable and well dressed. Dont be shabbily dressed or think you might not meet him today. Dress as if you will be meeting him every day. Dont try to over dress or present yourself in full make up. Be natural and try to be comfortable in whatever you wear. Take special care in grooming and love yourself first before you want others to love you.

(2) Your Confidence

Most men fall in love with self-confident, secured and bold women. Women who are insecure and lack confidence tend to make men feel uncomfortable as they will always depend on them and expect much from them. So whatever you do try to have confident and always have a self esteem and be proud of who you are.

(3) Your Visibility

Always try to be in the right places so that you can be visible to your man. Be in places where he might easily see you and always pretend that you are there by chance and not deliberately. Make it look and feel as if it is casual. Scientifically it is proven that the more someone sees, feels and is in the vicinity of someone there is more chance of someone falling and getting in love. So be there around him and make a point to make him look at you every time you pass by.

(4) Vanishing Act

The next biggest secret after creating a comfort level with him is to vanish. Once you know he is looking at you and has special liking for you, just disappear from his sight and keep away. Let him keep wondering and searching for his lady love. The more he starts missing you the more he will try other ways and means to contact you like SMS, call or emails. So wait patiently until you get a buzz in your mail box or mobile.

(5) Eye Contact/Keep in Touch

Eyes are windows to someone’s heart and mind. So look through his eyes and see his love flashing like stars. Dont forget to give courtesy calls and be very polite and poised and never show whats in your mind until he opens up. Once you are sure of his love try to keep him busy with you or thinking of you all the time by messaging or mailing him how much you miss him and what a great time you had with him last night. Always create a ray of better things to come and much better things to expect from you.

The secrets is make the man feel comfortable whenever you have the chance or a date with him and in no time it is not hard to make him fall in love with you.

Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationship is difficult but not undoable, and here are some tips as to how to make it work:

1. Have a common goal.
You and your lover are not going to be in a long distance relationship forever. Sooner or later, you will settle down, so plan for your future together. When will both of you settle down? How long will you both be separated? These are questions that must be answered even if you are both living in different cities to ensure that both are you are working towards the same direction.

2. Set rules.
Rules are required to avoid unnecessary arguments. Both of you need to know the dos and donts: can you date someone else or are you two exclusive? Is it okay for you to go for a drink with that hot girl in your office? Is it okay for her to go clubbing in that body hugging low cut dress that will make every guy drool? Set the expectations straight.

3. See it as an opportunity.
Simply put, be positive about it. Remember the law of attraction. If you are constantly thinking to yourself, “long distance relationship will not work”, then chances are you are right: it wont work. Believe in yourself and your partner. Open your mind and your heart and see it as a journey.

4. Do similar things.
Read the same books, watch the same movies and listen to the same songs so you have more things to talk about. You can even watch Game of Thrones together while being on Skype video call and enjoy your girlfriends reactions to the bloody scenes.

And the next time you try to be funny by going “Hodor, Hodor, Hodor” in the middle of a video chat, shell laugh.

5. Communicate regularly, and creatively.
“Good morning” and “good night” texts are mandatory; so are regular “I miss you” and “I love you” but no matter how sweet these messages are, if these are the only messages you send, your other half is bound to get bored. Be creative. Surprise her with an audio clip of “I love you” in Japanese (“Aishiteru”), a video of you singing “Cant Take My Eyes Off You” or a picture of you blowing a kiss in the direction of the camera.

6. Know each others schedules.
Keep each other updated of your schedule. You dont want to call her when she is in the midst of a meeting and you wont want to be disturbed with a call when youre sleeping. Always bear in mind of the different time zone if you two are living in different countries, and take note of important dates like exams, presentations and meetings.

7. Social media helps.
Stalk your significant other. Like each others Instagram photos. Reply each others Tweet. Comment on each others blog posts. Share funny videos on each others Facebook wall. Little things like this show that you care.

8. Give each other a personal object.
Give her your favorite Batman figurine. Ask for her Teddy Bear. None of us have a perfect memory and thats where memento comes in. It helps us remember and helps us survive tough times. When your girlfriend is depressed because of her work yet cannot contact you due to different time zone, she might look at your Batman figurine and laugh as she recalls how you mimic Batmans voice.

9. Snail-mail
Postcards and love letters please, gentleman. Its old school but its never out of fashion, and girls of all times love it. Send gifts – Birthday, Valentine, Christmas, anniversary, and any other festive season that you can think of. It can be something as normal as perfume, or naughty gifts like sexy lingerie, if you are trying to drop her a subtle hint that you cant wait to settle down.

Okay, maybe not that subtle.